What I learned from the Kardashians…


Yeah, you read that right. There is something to be learned from everyone, including the you-know-whos. So that the time spent wasted watching that fluff wasn’t a total loss, here are a few takeaways…

1- Having a wedding has nothing to do with getting married. I actually already knew this, but 4 exhausting hours of Kim’s Fairytale Wedding just reminded me of this fact. I never say never (thanks Justin Bieber) but I think I can confidently say that I will NEVER have another wedding. Thank goodness. That is a just a mess of money and drama-in-the-making. I don’t even see us renewing our vows unless they get really, really stale and if that is the case, I don’t think a party would help.

2- Disrespecting your spouse or spouse-to-be in public is such a violation of the agreement you have with one another as partners. If Kim Kardashian is producing and starring in a television special about HERSELF, why is she allowing the world to be voyeurs to her relationship problems? To make her seem more “real”? I am uncomfortable watching people argue like that. I always think that if this is what you allow people to see, what horrors are you keeping behind closed doors? They do not make this look like a good idea, but I really hope it works out. I love a good love story, but so far this doesn’t feel like one. Fingers crossed for you Kardumphries!!

3- Product placement is never seamless, regardless of the production cost of a particular show. Kris Jenner to Bruce Jenner: “Kylie, I discovered, is really, really a smart kid. There’s this new website she found because she wants to go to Hawaii on a family vacation but I told her no, it’s too expensive <<<insert me gagging. Too expensive, really? Why don’t you sell the hem of one of Kim’s 3 custom Vera dresses and you could take the whole town there. Just sayin’. >>> then she went on to this website called living social and she found everything like 50% off…and I actually found massages…like a whole massage package…twice the massages!” “That’s fabulous!” exclaims Bruce right on cue. Here comes the dramatic music and they’re back to discussing Kim’s pre-marital discord.

4- The love shown to each other by those sisters is something that should be taken as an example and a lesson. No matter how much money they have or how much of a parallel universe they live in, the way they treat each other is admirable. They truly define unconditional love. I’ve never seen anyone, sibling or friend, who is able to fight like they can but acknowledge all the way through it that it will be worked out because they love each other and family is everything. I don’t know anyone with a familial relationship like that! It is truly enviable. I have a sibling and She Who Must Not Be Named and I are the opposite of Kardashian sisters. Over the years we have been more likely to poke each other in the eye with a stick rather than hug it out. I think the Kardashian kind of relationship can’t be cultivated but it could be emulated to a degree. Is this a fake-it-till-you-make-it kind of situation? Is it ever too late? When has too much damage been done? I saw this quote on my beloved Pinterest today and it just may define my problem…

Sometimes we expect more from others because we would be willing to do that much for them.

I couldn’t figure out to whom I should originally credit that quote. I didn’t make it up myself, but I will certainly be thinking of it as I work through my feelings about this situation. I am not her and she is not me and we can’t write scripts for each other so that we always say the right thing. That would be cool, right?! To stop expecting so much from someone is to say that I accept the other person as being unable to provide it, and to not lose my dignity in the process says that I am bigger and more mature than I thought possible. I know I am not there yet, but with the help of my therapist and my Pinterest, maybe I’ll get there. I think the phrase “love you like a sister” is right up there with “sleeping like a baby”. Babies don’t really sleep all that well, and if a friend told me they loved me like a sister I’d have to ask for clarification on exactly what kind of a sister. “A Kardashian sister? Cool, thanks! I’m sort of a Khloe, so you can be Kim!”

Can’t wait for the day when I am able to say (and hear) “love you like a sister”, sister.


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